It’s time for an update! So as some of you know I have applied for housing to get out from under he who wishes to be obeyed. I am on the waiting list for three different places. I am not eligible for priority housing though because I have no police reports, no counselling reports, and no dr reports. Verbal and mental abuse is recognized to be eligible for priority but very difficult to prove when your abuser is careful what they do and say in front of others. I have over twenty recordings of him threatening to harm my pets, threatening what he will do to me, yelling cursing accusing me of doing things and not doing things, and the ultimate involuntary sex where he is yelling at me to remove clothes and I am saying no the animals are barking and hissing at him and he is pushing them away and yelling at them. These recordings however are not permitted. I can completely understand the frustration felt by mental and verbally abused victims. They feel alone, isolated, no one believes them because “he is such a charming guy” in front of them and they have never seen him angry. There is no way to win with a narcissist. If you lose weight you’re on drugs or seeing someone. If you gain weight you’re on drugs or doing it to make him mad. If you’re home late from work you’re cheating. If you’re home early you didn’t go to work instead you were cheating. You will never clean to his satisfaction. Nothing you cook will taste right or be cooked properly. You never do what he wants, buy what he wants or have sex the way he wants. Unless you have the money you will feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. Run when you can. Just run!